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“As lost as a ball in tall weeds!” That is exactly how I felt. Although it was twenty years ago, I can still taste the emotion as if it were yesterday. Out of control, lost, no sense of power, I felt dread creep across the room like the afternoon shadows on a cold winter’s day. Sitting again at the kitchen table with too much month left at the end of the money, I was not having fun. This “adult” stuff where a wife looks to you to provide and kids expect to be fed and kept warm was not exactly working. I didn’t feel like some powerful adult; instead, there was a little boy inside me who was very afraid—afraid of this month’s bills, afraid of this month’s mortgage, and absolutely terrified when I considered the future. How was I going to send kids to college, retire, enjoy life, and not live at the edge of money worries?

It seemed every month I sat at that same table with the same worries, fears, and problems. I had too much debt, too little savings, and no sense of control over my life. No matter how hard I worked, it seemed I couldn’t win. I was to forever be slave to some banker, to the government, and to the “needs” of my family. When Sharon and I “talked” about money, we ended up in a fight, leaving her feeling afraid and me feeling inadequate.

I didn’t need a get-rich-quick guy to pump me up or tell me to be positive. I didn’t need a secret formula to riches. I wasn’t afraid of hard work or sacrifice. I didn’t want to “feel” my way into being “positive.” I was positive of only one thing: I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was tired of sitting down to “do the bills” and having a heaviness come over me. All the money came in, all the money went out, and only the names were changed to protect the innocent. I owe, I owe, so off to work I go. You know the drill and all the clichés that go with the drill.

Oh, some months everything seemed to work, and I thought maybe we were going to be okay. I could tell myself then, “Oh well, this is how everyone lives.” Those times offered enough wiggle room that I could continue to lie to myself that we were making headway, but deep down, I knew we weren’t.

I Did It My Way, and My Way Wasn’t Working

ENOUGH! THIS STINKS! If you have ever had any of those feelings, you are going to love this book, and, more important, you will love your Total Money Makeover.

More than 20 years ago, my wife, Sharon, and I went broke. We lost everything due to my stupidity in handling money, or not handling it, as the case may be. Hitting bottom and hitting it hard was the worst thing that ever happened to me and the best thing that ever happened to me.

We started with nothing, but by the time I was twenty-six years old, we held real estate worth over $4 million. I was good at real estate, but I was better at borrowing money. Even though I had become a millionaire, I had built a house of cards. The short version of the story is that we went through financial hell and lost everything over a three-year period of time. We were sued, foreclosed on, and, finally, with a brand-new baby and a toddler, we were bankrupt. Scared doesn’t begin to cover it. Crushed comes close, but we held on to each other and decided we needed a change.

So I went on a quest, a quest to find out how money really works, how I could get control of it, and how I could have confidence in handling it. I read everything I could get my hands on. I interviewed older rich people, people who made money and kept it. That quest led me to a really, really uncomfortable place—my mirror. I came to realize that my money problems, worries, and shortages largely began and ended with the person in my mirror. I realized also that if I could learn to manage the character I shaved with every morning, I could win at money. That quest, the one that ended with me staring at myself in the mirror, led me on a new journey over the last twenty years: the journey of helping others, literally millions of others, take that same quest to the mirror. Live Events, Financial Peace University, The Dave Ramsey Show (talk radio and TV show), and the New York Times best-sellers Financial Peace, More Than Enough, and The Total Money Makeover have enabled me to tell millions of Americans what I have learned—the hard way—about money.

I have a challenge for you. Are you ready to take on the guy or gal in your mirror? If you are, you are ready to win. I rediscovered God’s and Grandma’s simple way of handling money. Wealth building isn’t rocket science, which is a good thing for me (and probably you). Winning at money is 80 percent behavior and 20 percent head knowledge. What to do isn’t the problem; doing it is. Most of us know what to do, but we just don’t do it. If I can control the guy in the mirror, I can be skinny and rich. We will let other books work on the skinny, and I will help you with the rich part. No, there are no secrets, and yes, this will be very hard. Hey, if it were easy, every moron walking would be wealthy.

So my Total Money Makeover begins with a challenge. The challenge is you. You are the problem with your money. The financial channel or some DVD sets aren’t your answer; you are. You are the king of your future, and I have a plan. The Total Money Makeover plan isn’t theory. It works every single time. It works because it is simple. It works because it gets to the heart of your money problems: you.

Tens of thousands of ordinary people have used the system in this book to get out of debt, regain control, and build wealth. These people have sacrificed for a short period of time so they will never have to sacrifice again.

If you are looking for a road map to get you home, you’ve found it. If you are looking for something easy or fast, you have the wrong book. If you are looking for a writer who has intricate academic theories (that don’t work in the real world), you’ve got the wrong guy. I have many of the academic pedigrees, but I ended up broke. I have actually twice become a millionaire from nothing. The first time I was in my twenties, the money was in real estate, and I lost that due to my stupidity; the second time I was not yet forty, but I did the money thing right that time, and I am debt-free.

I often hear about broke finance professors who bemoan that I am way too simple, or as an e-mailer told me on The Dave Ramsey Show one day, “You are a one-trick pony.” To those of you who say you have great but unexecuted plans, I say, “Prove it. I have.”

This plan works, but it will cost you. It will teach you to say new words, like “no.” In short, your Total Money Makeover will be a personal money makeover where you learn this motto: IF YOU WILL LIVE LIKE NO ONE ELSE, LATER YOU CAN LIVE LIKE NO ONE ELSE. This is the motto of your Total Money Makeover. It’s my way of reminding you that if you will make the sacrifices now that most people aren’t willing to make, later on you will be able to live as those folks will never be able to live. I’m sorry there isn’t an easier path to feature in the motto, but the good thing about this one is that it works. You can repeat the motto to yourself as you pass up a purchase in order to hit your goals. When you work late and are tired, you can say the motto to yourself. Of course, this isn’t a magic formula; I’m not into that. But it does remind you that you will win, and the payoff will be worth the cost.

I don’t want to walk across hot coals because it is fun, but if I can be shown how a short, painful walk will do away with the lifetime of worry, frustration, stress, and fear that being constantly broke brings me, then bring on the hot coals.

My promise to you is this: if you will follow the guidelines of this proven system of sacrifice and discipline, you can be debt-free, begin saving, and give as you’ve never given before. You will build wealth. The Total Money Makeover isn’t a magic formula to wealth. This system will not work unless you do. Your situation isn’t your spouse’s fault (well, maybe, but we’ll talk later), it isn’t your parents’ fault, it isn’t your children’s fault, and it isn’t your friends’ fault. IT IS YOUR FAULT!

My financial life began turning around when I took responsibility for it. Please join me on a journey away from the young man I was, the one I described earlier who was racked with worry, fear, and guilt over money. Take this journey with me to your own Total Money Makeover, but remember, the first part of the quest is confronting the man in the mirror. That man in the mirror is your Total Money Makeover Challenge.